One of the questions that couples often ask when they first start therapy is, “Can we actually fall in love again?” The answer is a resounding “Yes, absolutely!” But it doesn’t happen easily or accidentally. It happens with effort - with being intentional day after day, and only with the desire from both partners to try to recapture those lost feelings.
I often talk with couples who are struggling to find healthy boundaries in their relationship. They don’t always know that boundaries are the problem, and instead they often state they’re having “communication issues”. However, when we start to explore the issues, we find they have very different ideas about boundaries and how things should play out.
We hear about boundaries all the time. We know we have to have them. We know that we have to respect them. But do we actually know what boundaries are?
There's been arguing, stress, unhappiness, and tension. Parents talk about how frustrated they are and about the negative changes they’ve noticed in their teen. Teenagers tell me that they feel like their parents are rigid and unwilling to give them independence or respect.
The adolescent years have a reputation for being stressful on parents. You may feel like you don’t know your kid anymore, or there is so much tension, you don’t know how to go about fixing it. There are good reasons for this!
Lately, it feels like every day family therapy clients are telling me about how 'addicted' their children, spouses, or friends are to their devices (phones, tablets, etc.). I feel like I’m continually hearing complaints about the hours people spend looking at screens and how little they interact with each other or the outside world.